8 rules for dating a single mom
I may be single, but I got up the nerve to date — again — when Jack was around 2 and haven’t really stopped. Don’t get your kids so involved or go “dad hunting.”)Dating is for you — if it evolves — wonderful (see below on easing the intro between your child and special someone). Old Friend from high school — and then some fleeting guys.(Jack is pretty oblivious to my dating life — my motto is he should be concerned with Lego, reading and basketball, not my love, or lack of love, life — and I offer this up as advice to single parents reading this.However, some single parents are co-parenting — great.“Try to plan dates when your kids are with dad for an overnight or weekend,” says Leah Klungness, psychologist and co-author of “The Complete Single Mother.”“You’ll save money on a babysitter, get out without having to explain to the kids where you’re going and won’t run the risk of them seeing you drive off with someone who isn’t dad.”Solo single mom, like me?Arrange a sleepover at the grandparents, or ask a friend to watch your kiddo in exchange for your sitter services another night. Rule 3: Where to meet potential dates (because, really, we have zero time)Amy Spencer, relationship expert and author of “Meeting Your Half-Orange: An Utterly Upbeat Guide to Using Dating Optimism to Find Your Perfect Match” says to rethink that afternoon of fun with your mini me.(See rule number 1.) This will help if you’re nervous, and if there isn’t chemistry between you, you haven’t wasted an entire (kid-free) night.Suggest a bar or a tea house where you’ll be comfortable.
Cheese or glow-in-the-dark golf — and hit up places that are equally adult-kid friendly.
Here, tips from dating experts and me, because I’m in the trenches … I had no expectations or butterflies in my stomach — as a single parent, I’ve learned to always give someone a chance.
It’s nice to escape the land of Minecraft and talk about politics, traveling and books. Who knows where it might go — there’s some texting action happening, so that’s cool.
But rule of thumb: Be honest, but not overly telling in your profile.
“Don’t hesitate to check ‘yes’ for the kid question,” says Spencer.